Beatitude Two: “Please forgive me”
Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are those that mourn, for they shall be comforted”.
Now, if there was ever a paradox, this certainly seems like one. How can you be happy through mourning? Happy are the cry babies? Rather, we would like to think that “happy are those with no tears at all.”
I like how the Arab proverb puts it, "All sunshine makes a desert." When it comes to real life, few things make more sense. Understand first that Jesus is talking to the poor in spirit. The poor in spirit have tears of a different sort than we generally hear people crying about. Many people cry because they lose control, lose things or rights. That's all self-pity. Jesus is not addressing those people. He’s speaking to those that have rid themselves of pride and are capable of acknowledging that they were wrong.
In the attitude that Jesus is talking about there is a deep and earnest emotion. The Greek word that was used here describes your emotion when saying goodbye to a loved one. In fact, it is the word that the disciples used when they were grieving the death of Jesus. But what is the purpose of using this word in the Beatitudes?
- The mourning of repentance. Coming before God and recognizing your spiritual inadequacies. Mourning means that you are recognizing your sin. When you told your spouse, “Honey, I was wrong”, it was not mere words but a statement that included the emotion of sorrow for what was done.
- The mourning of love. We're far too busy crying for ourselves. Poor me! Look outside for just a moment, consider the needs of others. Weep for them. There's someone you could help today. Jesus wept over Jerusalem because they seemed as a sheep without a shepherd. He looked to those following him and said, "The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few."
How does this Work in Marriage?
There are times when husbands and wives just need to humble themselves and admit their wrong. If there is anything that can break the ice, it is for a spouse to just walk up and say, “Please forgive me.” It is kind of hard to stay mad when they have that spirit, isn’t it? Jesus is telling us, “Married couples have to forgive each other.”
“Honey, I was wrong” “Please forgive me”